How friends and family can help

It can be extremely distressing watching a close friend or relative struggling with what may be a mental health problem, but the main thing is that you can do something to help. Not knowing what to do can be even more stressful and what path you chose will depend on what you think the problem is and what your relationship is with them. So, where do you start? Be careful not to jump to conclusions, but take the time to watch your friend or relative’s behaviour.

Signs and symptoms can be many and varied. Of course, seek immediate help if you think they may be in danger of harming themselves or others. The next thing to do is talk. It is one of the hardest steps to take, but you might find they have been trying to discuss their difficulties with you too. Listen to what they have to say, don’t judge, offer support and direct them towards resources. If you are reading this then you are already looking for the right tools to help. If your friend or relative is agreeable to seeking professional help the next step is to look at setting up that first appointment.

You are more than welcome to attend the appointment with your friend or relative, should they want that. Sometimes it helps to support them in this first step and often you will not need to attend follow up appointments with them, but of course it is important you continue to offer your support. They may ask you to attend part or all of the appointment or simply wait outside for the duration.

The first appointment will usually be 60-90 minutes long, during which time I will want to build a full picture of the problems that have brought them to me, compile a detailed medical history, if this has not already been obtained through the referral, and ask some general health questions. I may also carry out a number of physical health checks. The information that you provide is an important part of the assessment.